Fortunately stupid 1

Gujarati version will follow.
ગુજરાતી હવે પછી લખીશ.ક્ષમાયાચના.
I am in romantic mood today:
Today is the first day of the month “Ashadh” so obviously by default you have romantic mood. After all we all are human being- I am for sure. Seasons always has influence on us, if you believe or not. Today my computer is not giving me full support, my Guajarati key board is not working and I just want to give up now so will write in Gujarati later. May be the computer is also having an influence of the season, some time it also give up.
“Ashadhashya pratham divase”, I am not remembering him for the all great creation, but it was co-incidence that today is the first day of Ashadh month and journey of my thoughts came to this topic about me as stupid person. Kalidasji who was cutting the branch on which he was sitting. Oh please do not misunderstood I am comparing myself. However I have been part of many creation and contributed with whatever limited but best of best ability.
I always have strong feeling stupidity and luck has strong coordination, and it has something to do with the creativity. I am always proud of all that stupidity which I have done or I think that was so stupid on my part or was considered as stupidity. I am glad I was stupid; I normally have not put lot of thoughts on many major decisions in my personal and professional life. However it has proved beneficial. ( to me off course, I am human being and a common person so I always talk about my benefit, we have to be selfish all the time, and we have to follow the values so we have to be honest in saying truth).
Any person with little intelligence can easily and immediately assess about my stupidity and they can conclude that I am really good for nothing. I took time understand this fact. Stupid people always wants to go the reverse way, against the trends, take up the challenges and try to impossible things.
I can say I am stupid person, and I have made many mistakes- I think it would be really good to remember those mistakes and stupidity I am sure you will be able to see all through out.- now my mood looks changing and let me come out from this sarcastic mood, I am not like this.
I am satisfied person:
My world was different until I fell ill. I was feeling that I am the most fortunate person in this world, I was so satisfied with whatever I have achieved in my life, I was never have feeling of lacking anything in life. I was not having that kind of stupid thoughts or wish of lacking money, education or anything in life. (So see, this was stupidity, I was happy because I was stupid.)
Today only one of my friend said “you were like work maniac”. I have seen many of my friends before 20 years at the time of their marriage, and now I met them when their children are grown up. They are also stupid, that time I also found them worried about their education and percentage in exam, even today I found them worrying about their children’s exam and admissions. God! give them some break.


What is my background?
Once during the presentation at IIMA, when I was on full track of making presentation about our initiative- what we are – as an organization/ company, and all that financial performance, marketing strategy etc. -This was routine work when you are heading the initiative, and since I was going at IIMA (Indian Institute of Management Ahmadabad) obviously I thought I will get no. of questions on the financial performance, strategy etc. but to my surprise I was asked very often by all the students (many of them were having some experiences working at the corporate)- “Pls. tell about yourself. We would like to know about you”. I was not able to speak much, was totally confused what to say. It was not habit to tell about myself, however can speak for hours for thousands of women’s life. Since they are part of our life we know them very closely.
That was the time I was thinking about myself. I have never realized these aspects that I have no background, I was having normal and common education, was not having any technical background, or a professional back ground. If I have any problems, there is no one whom I can share or take guidance at least not at the home. But there was always moral support from them.
At home it was really difficult for me to describe what kind of work I am doing or what I am doing. However I have hardly shared my back ground with these details or struggle to any outsiders. Infect I feel little shy to say that I am just Commerce Graduate, later on I realized yes one can always present the case in the context. To me it’s not right way to get opportunity or get sympathy or to be eligible for any position or -------.( stupid again).. (But yes one can always gain by sharing the hard back ground with struggles, that is the most strong bio data and can give you much eligibility. We all at home are really against the tears and crying or using tears as one of the weapons to achieve something or presenting case.
Simply Mona:
There can be simple stories as well. So I put the thought about myself: To me,
(I used to say,) I am Mona Dave, a commerce graduate, and have been part of this initiative for more than 19 years, having experience of working in rural areas etc etc etc.
Unmarried! (happily)
If you are in villages or in some kind of circle you are been asked so we have to answer- Unmarried, no children- when you are abroad you get direct question “ do you have any children?” Yes you have to realized they really do not bother about the first question of are you married?
Fevicol ka majboot jod! ( Strong bonding like a fevicol)
I often been asked what made you to join this sector? (Social or development sector)- I have all the funny answers, may be today I am in little different mood. So lets be very honest to ourselves atleast- I could not say to them that my dear friend -I was not having any other opportunity….! I do not wish to give serious answers right now but gradually you will get why?.
19 years is really long time, and it is very very interesting to see their face when we inform them about this long association.
It is really long association, indeed, and that is always on question mark. Now a days huge amount of turn over of the human resources –hmm-good quality of people, and it always become head ache to retain the good people/staff/or whatever term you want to read,--
Honesty and loyalty?- yes you are right.
It is very difficult to find honesty and loyalty. However in the world where I was associated, loyalty and honesty was not new, there are people since inception and foundations, even for more than 25 years.( I could be last if compete) But still I have seen people who wants to just pass the time, or use the association as stepping stone, or if they find any better opportunity or to find better opportunity, ( off course financially). Many people think they can make their own initiative if they have 2-3 years experience so this question is really obvious, but I don’t know some how my loyal blood do not really understand this question. (Very obvious Mona, in outside world it is called your progress)
Self Respect is must:
When you get satisfaction with what you do and you are convinced with what you do with your work and you find self respect what else do you need? I can understand the feeling of those people who have the theory that money is the important aspects, yes I am with you all, it is, but whatever you earn today it is always not sufficient and not satisfactory. Today if you are earning 1, you want to go to 2 and there is no end of greed and expectations, ambitions. We all at home always take the example of “Valmiki”, we all want to give ourselves best and also to our family but some day we come to know that they really were not asking all those luxury in their life, they were always happy. In my house also none of us were having big expectations or needs so to me self respect and satisfaction is important with the work.( off course work which is ethical). You expect and you give to others as well. We are always culprit of spoiling ourselves and our surrounding. Why we want to ‘give”? Give- provide is feeling with little ego and pride in negative way.
Age? Guess!
Many other questions were always been observed on people’s eye when they see your age, everybody always wanted to know about the age off course, but it is always good to see the guessing face about the age. This world was very different where we have to try to look mature. Very strange, I have to try to look mature and old otherwise people can not take me serious! But it is always a good answer to say what do you think my age would be ( if we see the person is worth asking this question) and it is more pleasure to listen that expected answer- oh you look very young you may be not more than ___( the answer is always unexpected and present you 10 years younger)! I am telling you we know the person is trying to please us, and still we feel so good about that. “Oh that’s complement thank you so much” one can not stop. Fun na??
( age and weight will gradually become the most talking points among the colleagues but it is always after 30’s. It is fun to hear how people are trying to reduce the weight – off course no body is unaware how they have gained. So you should learn atleast one sentence and you have to tell- oh wow you have reduced, and one can see that, you look wonderful. I can tell you that will give a great encouragement in to the person and it is other matter that one put on weight in that happiness.
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